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Post by AeroCooper on Nov 14, 2017 6:18:47 GMT -5
When I say hi to someone at work and they just stare at me as they walk by. Fuckin' weird ass people. Happens a lot too. When random people say hi to me and I panic inside - who the fuck are they? what do they want from me? will they kill me? should I kill them first just to be safe? Fuckin' weird ass people who have to butt in and can't leave me alone with my thoughts... And this is the look they have on their faces too. Just like you Ana, I'm not the most outgoing person, and I'd be just as happy alone at home most of the time. But I also recognize that this is not necessarily the best way to go through life and I am trying for a balance. It took me way too long to realize that when I don't say hello to people I see every day that they take it as me being stuck up and thinking that I'm too good for everyone else and that I don't like them, which is not the case at all, it's just my nature to keep to myself. So when I say hello, as people do, I'm just being social and polite, not trying to date rape them ffs. And yes, most of the time it is women that react with the blank stare as if I'm a bug on the wall, and most of the time they are at least semi-attractive. And no, that's not why I say hi to them, I say hello to all my co-workers on occasion, but not every single time I see them. "Get over yourself" is the thought I usually have for them. I'm not hitting on them for cripes sake, nor am I even interested in them that way 98% of the time. Too fuckin' special to say hello to me? GFY. Which loops back to what I wrote in the first paragraph. Huh.
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Post by anaix3l on Nov 14, 2017 7:55:29 GMT -5
When random people say hi to me and I panic inside - who the fuck are they? what do they want from me? will they kill me? should I kill them first just to be safe? Fuckin' weird ass people who have to butt in and can't leave me alone with my thoughts... And this is the look they have on their faces too. Just like you Ana, I'm not the most outgoing person, and I'd be just as happy alone at home most of the time. But I also recognize that this is not necessarily the best way to go through life and I am trying for a balance. It took me way too long to realize that when I don't say hello to people I see every day that they take it as me being stuck up and thinking that I'm too good for everyone else and that I don't like them, which is not the case at all, it's just my nature to keep to myself. So when I say hello, as people do, I'm just being social and polite, not trying to date rape them ffs. And yes, most of the time it is women that react with the blank stare as if I'm a bug on the wall, and most of the time they are at least semi-attractive. And no, that's not why I say hi to them, I say hello to all my co-workers on occasion, but not every single time I see them. "Get over yourself" is the thought I usually have for them. I'm not hitting on them for cripes sake, nor am I even interested in them that way 98% of the time. Too fuckin' special to say hello to me? GFY. Which loops back to what I wrote in the first paragraph. Huh. I've long lost count of obscene things yelled at me on the street. If I eat something on the street, you can bet your ass somebody's going to make a sexual comment about it. Heaven forbid my groceries are in something see-through, there's a sexual comment to be made starting from any item you can buy. Very good reason to use a backpack, which also leaves your arms free in case you need to defend yourself. I've long lost count of times I've been groped out of the blue from behind while lost in my thoughts walking down the street, trying to buy a train ticket at the station, pressing the button at a pedestrian crossing and so on. Times I've been grabbed by guys who unzipped and demanded I sucked their dicks right there, at the pedestrian crossing, in the elevator or while exiting the hospital with my x-rays. Times that guys have tried to undress me from behind or kiss me out of the blue on the street in broad daylight. I've even had a knife pointed at my throat on a couple of occasions. And this all happens in broad daylight. Nobody ever tries to help you, they just give you nasty looks for making a scene and disturbing them. "What did he do so bad?" - um, grabbed me and started biting my neck from behind? Is that supposed to be normal? If I look crazy-aggressive, I can get out of it easier. A victim that can kill you is too much trouble. It's still draining to be going down the street, thinking about money problems, leaky pipe problems, broken appliances problems and then, bam, out of the blue, some guy just feels like hitting on you, barging in, even though you were clearly lost in thought. But if I have an instant brutal reaction, that makes them back off and leave me alone. Which is all I want. It still feels draining to have to experience it in the first place, but at least it gets me to a place where I feel safe. I have quite a few skirts. I bought them because I really liked how they looked. I do like nice things. But I almost never wear them outside where anyone else can see me because then people would just tell me I'm looking for it. When I went to Germany this year it was the first time I wore a skirt outside of my house (though still with thick leggings underneath by the way) in almost a year and nine months. And the previous time I had worn a skirt, I wasn't alone. Thing is, you know you don't have bad intentions, but all I know is my past experience. I don't have a crystal ball to know what goes on in somebody else's head. And I'd very much rather look crazy, stuck up, unpleasant, whatever... than risk not being alive the next day. I can live without a social life. I can't exactly live with a slit throat.
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Post by AeroCooper on Nov 14, 2017 16:03:31 GMT -5
^ Well, we are certainly talking about 2 different things then. And those guys need a serious ass kicking.
And also, I don't usually say hello to random people on the street, much less whip my dick out. Wtf is wrong with people?
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Post by jj on Nov 15, 2017 0:09:49 GMT -5
Thing is, you know you don't have bad intentions, but all I know is my past experience. Ana, the behaviors you have described, and sadly experienced, are deplorable. It must be terrible to be have to be vigilant at all times like that. No wonder you are wary of men approaching you in any manner on the street. Stay strong.
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Post by anaix3l on Nov 25, 2017 6:17:30 GMT -5
Because of my trip to Berlin to see Alice Cooper, I was reminded of a few things I hate in airports. #1 on the list is definitely making your path to the gate pass through multiple stores. Especially when they announce the gate late and it's in an airport where I haven't been before or in an unfamiliar part of the airport. So I already know they've only left me a narrow time window between the gate announcement and end of boarding, I know I'm in a big ass airport... but I don't know the way to the gate, how long it's going to take me to get there... so I follow the signs and suddenly find myself in a store, no more signs except those advertising stuff... and I panic! Was I an idiot? Did I go the wrong way at a certain point? So I go back to the last sign I saw and check that my way to the gate does indeed go through the store. It's incredibly stressful! Yes, I know, they want your money, money, money! They want to make you buy shit, so they make you arrive at the airport early, then have you wait in the lounge with a zillion stores around, then have you pass through stores on your way to the gate. Brilliantly evil, isn't it? I first experienced this at Gatwick more than 4 years ago. It was only my second time out of the country and the only airports I had been in before were Otopeni in Bucharest and Tegel in Berlin, both of which are very geometric, easy to fully map mentally from the very first time you're there, have stores on the sides of your way to the gate, don't make you pass through the middle of them. And they're both much smaller. The same thing happened now at Schönefeld (the bigger airport in Berlin, at least until they finish the new one). The previous time I flew from there my gate was 15 or something, so pretty close and I didn't experience this. But now my gate was 60-something, so that made me pass through a lot of stores. And turn back a few times to check I was going the right way. The Cologne airport is just the same. Another thing I hate is when you don't have much space where you can put yourself back together after security. At OTP in Bucharest, there are quite a few of these long low tables with a fake marble top you can use. Buuut... at SXF in Berlin, at the fast security check (which is the only one I've ever used even though I don't really know if it's really faster), there are only two pretty small square tables. I was lucky enough to be able to hog one this time.
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Post by RiffsOnRuts on Dec 30, 2017 16:56:28 GMT -5
When you sit down to enjoy a Starburst candy and you think you got all the wrapper off only to find out in the middle of chewing that there's still a little piece of wrapper on there!
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Post by anaix3l on Jan 3, 2018 2:03:42 GMT -5
When somebody hides your rock band clothes because the imagery and text are "offensive" to religious beliefs. We're talking burning guitars and "let rock rule" here...
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Post by AeroCooper on Jan 12, 2018 6:26:24 GMT -5
Shipping lately.
I have one package that was supposed to be here today, Ordered it Sunday, they made a label Tuesday, and it wasn't picked up until today. Rescheduled for Monday now. Not critical, but I kinda needed it this weekend.
2nd package was supposed to be here yesterday. It sat at the same location for 3 days and this morning it is marked as damaged, all contents lost. Also needed it this weekend.
3rd package, well, I can't complain too much. It's coming from China and has been sitting for 3 days in the same place. Last night it went to customs and was returned from customs. I guess that's a good sign? I don't need that item until June or so anyway, so I'm not fussed over that one.
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Post by anaix3l on Jan 12, 2018 14:34:13 GMT -5
^I've just received stuff ordered over 4 weeks ago. And still no sign of stuff that was due to arrive in late December.
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Post by anaix3l on Jan 12, 2018 17:05:03 GMT -5
It seems the most common complaint people have can be summed up by: what you've done sucks because I'm too fucking lazy and stupid to go to the very well organised and comprehensive docs (that months of work went into!) and try to understand how to use it.
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Post by anaix3l on Jan 28, 2018 18:10:01 GMT -5
Motivational shit.
It's just so irresponsible to give people false hopes and push them into doing stupid shit that can cost them a lot of money, a career, all kinds of relationships, their health and maybe even the one fucking life they have.
Not saying you shouldn't try, but for fuck's sake, be realistic.
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People just wanting to milk my image to boost their own.
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Post by anaix3l on Feb 21, 2018 1:46:40 GMT -5
Ready for a rant? Customer support at times.
So... I was looking for a way to travel by bus to a concert abroad because that seems the cheapest option. Found decent prices for very convenient times of departure and arrival. Only problem: where do I take the bus from? For the cities in Romania, they just list the city, no indication about where the station might be. Searched the whole site and found something on this in the FAQ. It said that the easiest way is via their mobile app. But that's also the only way they list there and I don't have a smartphone so their mobile app doesn't help me. And by the way, no, I don't want a smartphone, I don't need to be connected all the fucking time, I can't afford to pay a data plan and I definitely don't want my every movement tracked all the fucking time (every time I used someone else's phone, it freaked me out how much it easily revealed about them).
So I tried Google Maps. Which again proved useless for Romania, though I think I got the right stop locations for both my bus and train in Austria (wouldn't hurt knowing for sure). I spent one additional hour researching the matter to ask clear and well-informed questions regarding stop locations, possible delays since I'd be taking the bus for quite a long trip before I take the train for a shorter trip and also how taking the train would work (even though I can get tickets from them, the train is not operated by them, but by a partner).
Okay, filled in my details, asked all these questions via the contact form... and got a generic response that had ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with what I had asked. Are you fucking kidding me?
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Post by anaix3l on Mar 8, 2018 10:53:38 GMT -5
"Women in tech" lists.
I'm not interested in exposure or praise or whatever the fuck just because I happen to have a vagina. I find it insulting and I'm worth more than that. I'm not incompetent, so I don't need that sort of boost and I'm not spineless, so I certainly don't want it.
I discovered I can remove myself from a twitter list if I block the person who created it, so I tried doing that for a while, but it just got so damn tiring to do that manually for hundreds and hundreds of lists. And I can't do anything about just plain tweets or articles in somebody else's corner of the internet.
I've ended up blocking keywords, but stuff still slips through...
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Post by redvers76 on Mar 8, 2018 17:31:14 GMT -5
While I can see why they’d piss you off, not thinking what you do is anything special, I think it’s awesome for my 11yr old daughter to be able to look at things like that and think that she could be whoever she wants, do whatever she wants. Like it or not, people will see you as a role model....
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Post by anaix3l on Mar 9, 2018 3:24:35 GMT -5
While I can see why they’d piss you off, not thinking what you do is anything special, I think it’s awesome for my 11yr old daughter to be able to look at things like that and think that she could be whoever she wants, do whatever she wants. Like it or not, people will see you as a role model.... But I'm not a role model and I have no desire of being seen as such. And I have a problem with the "look at X and think you could be whoever you want" kind of thing. First off, because I don't see why it's necessary to see someone of the same sex doing something to decide it would be something cool to do. Second, because some things you'll never be and chasing those impossible dreams can become something very toxic that will break you, will destroy your mind, your body, your will to live and ultimately take your life.
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